BLENDERMOM BY DONNA MOTT
Donna is sharing her faith and blended family life on blendermom.me. She is a graduate of SheSpeaks through Proverbs 31 Ministries. She has done a series of articles on Uplifting Families and is a regular contributor to Family Fusion Community. She is currently pursuing a degree in Biblical Studies. She and her wonderful husband have been married for over 6 years. She has a beautiful 15 year old daughter and a handsome 10 year old son as well as a handsome red headed 12 year old stepson. Aside from working, writing and school, she serves in the Open Arms program in her church working with children with special needs.
1) Tell us what your blog is about and what inspired its conception?
My blog is about being a biomom and a stepmom in a blended/stepfamily.
I have loved to write ever since I was a young girl. It was an outlet to express emotion for me; a happy song, a sad poem, a prayer to God. I can’t think of more emotionally charged circumstances than verbal/emotional abuse, divorce, remarriage, and blending a family.
In scouring the internet for help through this journey, I noticed that although there were Christian articles and websites on stepfamilies, there was very little faith-based information and advice on some of the deeper issues that we had faced such as court, custody, jealousy, competition, control, abuse, etc… So I started a blog to express my emotions and feelings as well as to share my thoughts on some of those deeper issues from a biblical standpoint.
2) Who is your ideal reader and what do you hope they can gain from your blog?
Divorce can be very emotionally damaging for all involved. It can leave you feeling that something is inherently wrong with you, that somehow you were made wrong and that’s why it didn’t work out or now that you are divorced and remarried, God can’t use you. I want my readers to know that God doesn’t make mistakes. He gave you everything you need to be great. Your blended family may have come out of a broken home but God heals and restores so that your family is not broken. You are restored to unbroken. In Esther 4:14, there’s a phrase that says “Who knows if perhaps you were made queen for just such a time as this?” Your roll whether it is biomom, stepmom, or like me, a blendermom is such a wonderful opportunity to facilitate that healing and exemplify unconditional love. I truly believe God placed you in this roll for a reason inspite of all the discouragement and issues.
3) Where do you see your blog in 5 years’ time and will the topic continue to be as prevalent?
I hope that God will continue to open doors for me to share my journey and faith to more hurting stepmoms, biomoms, and blended families. I hope to eventually create more of a ministry of healing out of my blog. I think that it will absolutely be prevalent. We are just starting to see more churches and faith-based organizations reaching out and ministering to these familes but there is so much more to be done.
4) How do you continually find content for your blog?
(Lol) My life is continual content. That is absolute truth.
5) What opportunities has your blog provided you?
Connecting with some really great “blendermoms”. Opportunities to share God’s unconditional love. The opportunity to help just one other mom feel that she is not alone.
6) How do you juggle “3 kids with 3 other parents that go to 3 different schools and have 3 different parenting schedules” and also manage to maintain a blog?
I describe it as glorious chaos. It is very difficult to find time to write but I just always seem to manage. I am not always able to blog every week but I try to at least twice a month. I also have lots of schedules and notes plastered on the fridge to keep up with who is going where and with whom.
7) What words of wisdom would you have for first time step mothers?
The dad and the children are a package deal. You can’t commit to one without committing to the other. It’s hard. It’s disappointing at times but make the decision to support and love anyway no matter the return. You may be the only example of what a good healthy family relationship is supposed to be.
8) Do you have any advice for aspiring bloggers?
Write! If you are considering starting a blog then write some posts before you go through the trouble of setting up a website. It will help you form more of what you want to say. It will help you with organizing your thoughts on what you want to share. And it will also help with setting the tone and atmosphere of your blog.
THANK YOU FOR LETTING US GETTING TO KNOW YOU!
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